Thursday, January 21, 2010

Day 6: Re-string the Guitar

Sometimes you start out playing the sweetest melody on your guitar. It flows and reaches a point that’s exciting. You get into it. You’re jamming. It feels so good. But, sometimes you strum so hard that a string breaks. You can’t push through. You can’t keep playing, because that string is needed to keep the harmony, to make the music beautiful. If you keep going with that broken string, you fall flat. And, if you break another string, then it gets even worse.

Take the time to re-string the guitar. Take the time to stop, even though what you had going was so great. Taking a break and fixing what you can immediately, may give you time to start again, maybe slower this time and help you appreciate the piece more than you would have if you had just kept strumming.

There will be times in life and relationships that strings break. Be sure you fix them before you keep strumming. It could be the difference between a disaster and a masterpiece.

Monday, January 18, 2010

Day 5: Is it worth it?

Is it worth it?

“Anything worth having at all is worth working for and waiting for.” - Betty Wright
I attended a funeral today. The woman that passed away was 53 years old. She left behind her husband of 35 years. They married as teenagers and made it through the storm all the way through. They went to hell and back together, but loved each other stronger every day. They were partners in life, taking on the world together until it was death that made them part.
Is this how relationships are supposed to work? When it seems like it’s time to give up and throw in the towel, are you supposed to clutch each other instead? The more days I tuck under my belt, the more I believe this is true. I believe that if you find a true partner, then that person is worth fighting for.
I’m looking a struggle ahead of me, but I think it’s worth it. Relationships aren’t simple when you drive up with a U-Haul full of boxes of relationships that ended in a broken heart, a divorce, kids (aka an ex that won’t ever go away), or any other emotional baggage associated with taking a chance with your heart in your past. It’s not simple anymore. Now, there are issues.
So, is it worth it? Is it easier to throw in the towel when the issues rear their ugly heads? You can walk away, like it all never happened. But, that doesn’t accomplish anything. What if you get through hell today and experience a piece of heaven tomorrow? What if you love each other for 35 years and then your partner dies? Was it worth it? Should you have been alone the entire time instead? Or, maybe going down with a fight gives you the peace that did all you could. Or, maybe you feel like you did it all for nothing.
When it comes down to fight or flight, I have always fled. But, this time is different. I have faith that fighting for it is the better choice. Running away would cause more pain. If I weather the storm, I know it will result in living in the warmest sunshine I’ve ever felt. There will be cloudy days ahead, but in the end, it will all be worth it.